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Chores for children

Navigating Power Struggles
by Tia Fagan
workshop
25 May 2020
With the whole family at home 24/7, the household sure needs a lot more attention. Here’s the perfect answer…
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How to encourage children to help with chores

Children often enjoy doing household tasks because it gives them a sense of belonging and a feeling of capability. Yet, many families feel that chores lead to power struggles and are a hassle to deal with. The problem with chores very often has to do with how we parents approach the whole idea of chores and house hold tasks.
I often find that a simple, encouraging, non reward based approach is not only easier on us parents (no points or stickers to keep track of) it also instills in children a sense that sharing household jobs is simply a regular and expected part of family life.

So here are three simple ideas for encouraging children to help:

Work Together: Instead of giving children a list of jobs to do and walking away, invite them to work alongside with you. Working together gives us parents a chance to model tasks and also creates a sense of family responsibility, plus it’s a great time to connect. Bonus: Working together leads children to feel secure and happy to take on the jobs on their own as they grow.
Have fun: Tug of war bed sheet changing? Pretending to be color sorting robots? Create a game or turn up the music… Keeping chores fun creates a sense of enjoyment so children are more likely to feel engaged, involved and look forward to helping the next time around.
Keep it simple: Children are much more likely to help if they feel they can actually accomplish a task, so try to keep tasks age appropriate, simple and short. Instead of saying “clean up your room” it helps to break the bigger jobs into smaller ones “can you get the bed sheets off your bed” and “can you stack these five books?”
So, do your children like or dislike helping with household chores?
Peace & Be Well,
Ariadne
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Help the family to pull together and work as a team by challenging yourselves to conquer one of the many weekly goals in the Family5 app. Work together on routines, relationships or manners and make a positive difference in the home.
About the author
Ariadne has a Masters in psychology and is a certified Positive Discipline Parenting educator. She is the founder of Positive Parenting Connection and is based in Switzerland.
This post originally appeared in Positive Parenting Connection on 27 June 2013
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